Dumped? Break-up? Separated?

Welcome to life, and it's a sad fact of life, but at some point
in our life,
we might experience being dumped by a girlfriend or a boyfriend.
And, neither
guys nor girls like to get dumped, especially by someone you really
cared for and
loved before. LOVE... According to the dictionary of psychology;
it simply means
a strong feeling of affection, enjoyment towards some specific
things or person.
LOVE is also the opposite of hatred. In this post I shall share
about love in a
relationship. In reality, love is a two-way street not
JALAN SEHALA. Both parties
have to love, nurture a relationship and being understanding to
keep it alive.
It's doesn’t feel good to be involved in a one-way relationship
with a woman or
man that you love and they does not love nor understand you. 

Here are some famous saying that I’ve picked:

 

The Cardinal Rule of Life is- "Never stay where you are not
appreciated."

From the bible; John 13:34- “A new commandment I give unto you,
that ye love one
another; as I have loved you,that ye also love one another.”

Thomas Campion, 1567-1620, English poet- “Never love unless you can,
bear with all the faults of man”

Geoffrey Chaucer, 1340-1400 English poets- “Love is blind”

Sigmund Freud- “The credulity (the ability or willingness to
believe that
something is real or true) of love is the most fundamental source
of authorities.”

If a girl/guy who is not interested in you, then that is that.
Nothing you can

do that is going to change it. Don't waste time with people who
aren't into

you. Just be friend, why make life hard for yourself? Even if
he/she looks like
the guy/girl of your dreams, it will lead nowhere so move on your
own life, there
are long ways of journey in your life, take him/her as your friend
rather than being
a lover that will burden both.

On the other hand, when is the last time you are not being
appreciated? How long
have you been the only one putting energy into the relationship?
Are you the glue
holding the whole thing together? She/he is neither showing nor
giving any effort
or energy towards being with you or even appreciates it? So at this
point, what
will you do? Break-up? Pick a Fight? Making noise?

If you experience these symptoms and recognize the lack of "magic"
or “miracle”
present when two people are mutually interested, don't try any
remedies – JUST LEAVE.
Don't make a speech, comments, or an unwanted scene, or an issue
or cause it into
big issues that lead to a crisis. Simply bow out gracefully and
pursue girls/guys
who are interested in you.You will be doing yourself and everyone
else a big favour.

I know you're going to feel like shit in the beginning after your
girlfriend/
boyfriend breaks up with you or you decide to call it quits. Try
to consider the
following 5steps contemporary method and suggested 1, it might help
you: -

 1. (Contemporary) Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself and
try to scheme up
ways to get your girlfriend/boyfriend back.Don't make any efforts
whatsoever and
whatever you do, don't call her or write her. You need to block her
out of your life
completely and pretend that she does not even exist on this earth
anymore???
(Suggested)  IS this the right way? Basically it is not a right way,
even you have
gone through breaking up you can still be friends if both of you
does not screw up
the relationship during the process of breakup. Better to have a
friend
than an enemy.

 2. (Contemporary) If you have any pictures of her lying around,
on the wall,
or in your wallet, hide them in your attic or somewhere where you
will not likely
see them. Even better, throw them away or burn them. You could be
nice and return
them to her if you desire. (Suggested) Pictures are memory between
you and your EX,
so why being so cruel to destroy them? Keep it some where that
makes you feel
comfortable with the past memory.

 3. (Contemporary) Here's a good ritual to get her out of your
system: Sit down
and write he/her a letter telling he/her pissed off and hurt you
are about he/her
dumping you and tell he/her good bye and you don't want to ever
see he/her again.
Don't mail this letter, but just set it aside somewhere. This is
just a good way
to vent your feelings and make you feel better. (Suggested)Now what
makes you
different with him/her if you do that to hurt them? This is
something subjective…
so make your own choice.

4. (Contemporary) Block out of your mind all the good times you had.
Just focus on
the negative and bad times(her bitchy moods, her always nagging you,
standing you
up for dates, telling her you love her and she does not say
anything in return,
her not returning your calls, her flirting with other guys when
you go out, her
unsightly nose hairs,her fat ass, all your arguments, etc.). After
some serious
thinking, you may come to realize that you had mostly bad times and
things worked
out for the best by you getting out of an unhappy relationship.
(Suggested) When
being in a relationship everyone was happy in the beginning, so why
need to make
things turn into this way? Just be friends forget about what is bad
that had happen
between you all and keep a good image of your Ex. Forgive them as
they forgive
what you had done as well. Sharing is caring, you might want to
share with you best
friend about it… so go ahead!!!

5. (Contemporary) don’t listen to the crying in your beer songs or
songs that you
shared together. Listen only to upbeat music that will cheer you
up. Lying around
listening to sad songs is only going to make you feel worse. If you
can, avoid
going to places that will remind you of your ex. (Suggested) but
running away from
problem was never a good idea. Sit down,have some time, solve it
and over come it,
I bet your life will be a better day.

In conclusion, above was just some example, suggestion are mainly
my own opinion,
do share with me if you have your own idea. Fight the feelings of
loneliness/blues
after you break up with work. The kinda that produce a heavy sweat
(physical labor).
This takes your mind off of your negative emotions when you're
feeling down. And
negative emotions are your worst enemy. Because, when you dwell on
your misfortunes
in attracting love, it only makes you feel worse. Always try to
think positive and
what ever happens to you in life is only temporary. Life goes in
cycles and there
will be good and bad times. Always strive to dwell on the good
times you've
experienced with man and women in your life and bury your past
failures with
man and women.

Pray to god as well for your better tomorrow.